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“We are a society obsessed with finding the right person, without working on becoming the right person.” This idea, often shared in various forms and closely linked to Bryant McGill’s quote, “Love is not about finding the right person, but about being the right person,” reflects something I’ve seen many times in my work as a psychotherapist. People frequently come to therapy because of difficulties in their relationships. They want clarity about a partner’s behaviour, insight

Anxiety can feel overwhelming and unpredictable, like it appears out of nowhere and takes over. But from a Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) perspective, anxiety isn’t random or mysterious. It follows a pattern, and understanding that pattern helps us manage it better. A very useful way to understand this pattern is The Anxiety Equation , created by Bruce M. Hyman and Cherry Pedrick. This model gives a simple but effective formula: Anxiety = (Overestimation of Threat × Unde

In My Friends, Fredrik Backman writes: “Adults often think that self-confidence is something a child learns, but little kids are by their nature always invincible — it’s self-doubt that is learned.” This observation reflects what I often see in my work as a CBT therapist in London and across the UK. Many clients seeking therapy for low self-confidence believe something is deeply missing in them. They talk about confidence like it’s a skill they never learned or a trait others